Are you happy? that is the question

When my siblings and I are grown, we went our separate ways but met up on any occasion at my parents. Since we had jobs that took us away from the nest, we could hardly sat and chat and talk about our lives. We only asked about each others health and family and never really asked if anyone of us happy or unhappy with our choice of life.

Nowadays when we can communicate on the internet we could really ask each other without feeling intruding. The other day my younger sister asked me if I was happy with my choice of life. She had assumed that I am doing fine and happy with my life, but she said now she wants to ask directly.
I was glad to report that I am doing fine and am happy with my current lifestyle. I was touch that she asked because it had been in her mind to ask for a very long time, but would not jeopardize the good time we usually had when I was home visiting.

There are many things that can make one happy, the simple things in life can trigger such happiness that one can never imagine. I love the tranquility of life in the rural area that might freak out some people. The sounds of the locust in the nights, the cry of the coyotes or the hoots of the owls.

My life is at a very slow pace compared to the hustle bustle of the city lights, the only lights we see here at night are the beautiful stars and the moon or occasionally the passing of the international space station. We sometime stay out on the deck to see the meteor showers or the play of the northern lights in the open sky.

In relationship I find that I am more at peace with plenty of room or space to be with myself. I like my independence and freedom to make decisions. I love being married too. There are things that I like to do together and there things I like to do by myself. I was single for a very long time and I loved my life then too. I love the freedom of, nobody can stop me doing anything I like to do. I was only responsible for myself. I did not have to consider anyone's feelings when I made any decision, I was in control.

Some people (women mostly) think that they are not really a woman until they get a man or have babies. I have nothing against them, but I think they have narrowed their scope of happiness to revolve around a man and that is how many get hurt.
Some think that to have babies s the ultimate way to ensure that the marriage is sealed, but look at what is happening today. Men do not give a hoot about leaving their wives and children with no means of supporting themselves and chase skirts. At least the enforcement of the child support law in the US is good, nevertheless some men prefer not to hold on to a job so as not to be traced to pay child support.

In a supposedly Islamic Malaysia, men just walk out of their responsibilities without a blink of an eye. They just leave the wife and children to fend for themselves without a shred of guilt and chase skirts all in the name of Islam. (Islam allows Men to have 4 wives). I blame lack of knowledge of one's religion that makes these irresponsible men be what they are. There are no court decision that can punish them. They should be shamed in public open court so that all can see or whipped with the cane in public for their negligence and irresponsibility.

Men when they start chasing skirts they would do anything to discredit their faithful wife. They would say anything as small as the way she puts food on the table is not the way he likes or the way she cleans the plates are not to his liking. If they are sincere they had all those years to tell yet, they wait until a new SYT comes along. Then everything that they had so good before don't look good anymore.

These are weak men, these are better off to be without. Those women who wanted so much to have these kind of men around are just heading for a heart breaks. I think, I would cut my losses and start anew.

So, are you happy?